Relationships where one partner has BPD can be chaotic, intense, and inconsistent. The person with BPD tends to fear abandonment and at the same time fluctuates between idealizing (i.e., exaggerating a person’s positive qualities) and devaluing (i.e., exaggerating a person’s negative qualities) others.3 When a person with BPD perceives rejection, t...

People with BPD may end a relationship for different reasons. For some, ending a toxic relationship may be a healthy step and a way to assert boundaries. For others with BPD, ending a relationship may be a response to the inner emotional turmoil that they experience because of their condition. People with BPD have a tendency to reason based on thei...